daphnep: (yarn (he)art)
( Feb. 12th, 2012 07:33 pm)

I keep seeing that video of Ellen DeGeneres making the rounds, responding to her detractors opposed to her deal with JCPenny.
(Here, if you've missed it.)

And every time I see it, it makes me happy. Mostly because to me, Ellen, and her sustained popularity, in particular, is one tangible sign that it really does, sometimes, "get better." I remember very clearly what a huge outcry there was when she first came out on her television show as a lesbian. I was in high school, in a small conservative town, and even though we all knew she was gay, it was an enormous thing when they made it a plot line and actually said it in so many words, on television. I remember kids talking about it in the lunchroom. And now, I can't begin to count the number of "out" celebrities and gay plot lines in t.v. shows, and every day it seems there's a new one, and I can note on my own personal timeline how much the universe has shifted, because I remember personally that time when it was radical that Ellen was gay. And she's still gay, and it's no longer radical, and the world has improved just that measurable amount, and I love Ellen, for being a measuring stick for that important change.

I love her for other reasons, too: She's funny, whether she's hosting an awards show, on her talk show, or being interviewed in magazines and on other shows. Or that video with Kristin Bell.

She makes me laugh. She makes me laugh in a belly-deep, chortling way that defies the conventional comic wisdom, that says that women can't be funny.

Also, I love that even though she's not conventionally cover-model-gorgeous, she's still won the cultural recognition of a "beautiful woman"--many particular honors that are normally reserved for a different, less interesting kind of face, like a makeup sponsorship deals (CoverGirl) and the covers of fashion magazines.

W magazine

And mostly, I just love that this supposedly "not funny" "not pretty" kick-ass gay woman is all over the place, still being hilarious and gorgeous and smart and in every way bad-ass.
daphnep: (eye)
( Aug. 12th, 2011 11:33 am)

by Imogen Cunningham

How many ways can I love this photo?
daphnep: (tea)
( Jan. 31st, 2008 09:40 am)
To the beautiful woman in the coffeeshop this morning:

I noticed you right away. Just last night, I was blabbing once again about how I think laugh lines are the most attractive feature in either a man or a woman, because one obtains them not from genetics, but from living a good life. Laugh lines are the mark of a person who knows how to live well. You had great laugh lines. You also had shiny gray hair in a chic, stylish cut, and neat clothing, and were wearing lipstick.

I thought to myself, waiting in line for my coffee (large, room for cream), that you were exactly the type of older woman I'd see and admire on the Sartorialist's blog, those fabulous older women who are so stylish and wonderful. And here you were, right in my coffeeshop, looking gorgeous!

Imagine my surprise to overhear you telling your friends, animatedly, "There's this wonderful website called 'the sartorialist'..."

Don't you just love life's loopy synchronicities? I don't have to go online to find inspiring examples of women aging gracefully. Your beauty brightens my day.

Thank you,



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